Your life partner is the one whom you are going to spend the rest of your life with. His/hers is the face that you are going to see first, everyday you get up. He/she is the one whom you have to share your joys, sorrows, problems and ultimately, life. So make sure that you have made the right choice before you decide on someone. 97% of all relationships fail because basic relationship requirements are not met or are unknown. Do you know what your relationship requirements are?
How to select your life partner?
" Marriages are made in Heaven!!" it is an out dated dialog to express our opinion on marriages. Now the new trend is searching for life partner online! As the advent of Internet popularity, hundreds of matrimonial web sites are working to offer better Bride / Groom details for free of cost. Basically the selection of a life partner online is made by matching the details of both bride/groom and a personal visit of family members there after. It is true that the time will be saved up to 50% by approaching the matrimonial web sites to choose life partner online. But here is the main problem is How to selecting a best life partner online? The experts says that selecting life partner on the basis of physical appearance and good charming personality is not a successful choice always. It's always better to verifying family back ground and matching personal data which is given in the matrimonial web sites. It is also part of duty of parents providing the Bride / Grooms personal data sincerely to avoid the bitter experiences in future.
First of all, you must have a clear idea of what you want from your life partner. You must set your priorities right. It helps a lot in channelizing your options.
1. Why I am going for marriage:
Most of people don't find clear reason of marriage. This is a good question to ask from yourself before planning for marriage. Make a list of reason on the paper, it will solve your most of tension & give you clear picture altogether about searching of life partner. You should always focus that you are looking for some one with whom you will spend whole life & construct a family.
2. What I am seeking in my life partner:
Again you should list down on the paper that what you want to be in life partner. Most of people do marriage as per money, status in society; beauty and religion, which can turn out to be a failure. Look for the human virtues in him/her. It is applicable for both man and woman
3. Communicate with your keen or relatives or friends:
Marriage cannot be decided by one person or you cannot take decision by yourself. Taking help from someone, especially parents, relatives, respected and trustworthy members of the society is not bad instead it is in fact mandatory to know about important information about your spouse. You can even ask his/her friends.
4. When you talk with your prospective spouse, talk like business man and talk to the point.
Some times it is motivated to start conversation on phone. But it doesn't mean you are licensed to talk in a flirtatious manner. At the same time, you should not be talking just for the sake of talking. Talk objectively to understand each other & and try and analyze your compatibility with each other.
5. Last but not least, don't imitate your friends or relatives:
Don't compare your requirement from your friend or relatives, your own requirement or thinking about prospective partner should be the decisive factor in marriage process. Its not harmful to take suggestions. But last decision must be unanimous of all your relatives, parents & trustworthy friends.
Make sure that you get to know your partner well before you proceed with the proposal. Get to talk to him/her. Try and understand your partner’s character, desires, goals, ambitions, interests etc. Get an idea about the life style that your partner has been following. If he/she has followed a posh life style, it may turn out that you may quite not be able to support him/her. Have an open talk about his/her virtues in life, habits, strengths and weakness. Don’t shy away from asking personal questions which may directly affect you , for e.g., smoking habits, drinking habits, snoring etc. Never give your partner the impression that some kind of interrogation is going on. Keep the talks as casual as possible. At the same time, you can afford to leave the background verification to your relatives, matrimonial agencies or even private detective firms.
And one more thing, make sure you are able to resist to the instant gratification impulse to react to the physical fascination natural in the beginning of any relationship. A photo can be used as a guide line to decide which all proposals you want to proceed with. But you should never take a final decision going just by the looks. Its always possible that a person may not be photogenic and may look much better in real. Also keep in mind that it’s the personality that matters than the looks. Even if a person is a bit darkish in appearance, you may get bowled over by his/her charm, behavior and attitude when you talk to him/her in person.
Take the time to choose your life partner carefully and well. Make sure, you know who you are and what you want in a relationship - your values, life vision and goals, requirements, and needs. Both of you have emotional intelligence skills and similar levels of commitment to making the relationship work. You choose someone who deals with people and circumstances in the outside world in a way you respect. You choose someone compatible with your own way of seeing life (worldly-oriented vs. spiritually-oriented) to avoid feeling isolated and misunderstood. Remember that the interests, ambitions, intellect and principles that you share are going to help you take your married life forward.
Devangavivaha.com wishes to inform our members that we are providing you with the opportunity to communicate with other members and we are in no way trying to influence your decision in selecting the life partner.
We wish all to have a successful and loving married life!
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